In this eye-opening episode, we delve into the often-overlooked discourse of how radical feminist ideologies are shaping perceptions of marriage and relationships.
Oh come on! Nobody's "radicalizing wives against their husbands". Wives are talking about their realities. It's 2025 and women are still taking on the majority of the household chores, cooking, childcare, emotionanal labor and cognitive load. We all know this. And outdoor/indoor work is not equivalent. Garbage takes what - 4 minutes per week to do? Fixing bits and bobbles around the home? Also infrequent (and people usually call out for that). Lawn upkeep? Most Americans are not even home owners to have a lawn to worry about, but for those that do - it's not a daily thing.
There's this one youtuber who years after his divorce has made his whole youtube career and persona about the divorce. Keeps chewing over and over in his head the reasons for his divorce (of course he blames his wife) and just can't let it go. He just can't understand why his wife left him when (according to him) he worked so hard to give her a nice upper middle class life in the suburbs. He said she ruined the relationship by expecting him to be a "mind reader" and know what she wanted without telling him. The example he gives are the chores around the house and taking care of his own damn kids. He said "ok she told me but I needed constant reminding". He said, "I'm a man so of course I've got other things on my mind so I forget but if she would have reminded me regularly I would have done it." Um, what if SHE would have "forgotten" to do important chores and child care? What would happen then? Point is - he could forget because he knew SHE was there to take care of everything. If SHE were to forget however, she couldn't rely on him to get it done.
THIS IS THE COGNITIVE LOAD THAT WIVES ARE TALKING ABOUT
And this dude still wonders why his wife left him?!
That's what the married women are dealing with. For singles...
The dating pool for women is literally
- porn addicts
- "sensitive" guys you have to perform constant emotional labor for
- narcissistic (if not sociopathic) gym bros
- emotionally distant manipulators
- performative "woke" men who still treat women like shit
Until men are ready to face up to all of this expect to see the dating, marriage and birth rates go down, down, down, down, down and...... DOWN.
While I think you may be only be addressing some common, but lazily constructed arguments while dismissing the episode and the substance of their full argument too easily (i.e. I know you could probably make a much stronger argument), I very much appreciate this specific clarifification of what is likely included in many womens valid concerns. This is valuable and practical information (and a fine foundation for a more encompassing argument).
Furthermore, I think you've nailed a critical and necessary element that many, perhaps most relationships are missing these days. And while I think Malcolm and Simone have offered a solution for this, you may be laying out one of the core problems that deserves specific treatment in how to address.
In clarifying how to make this actionable, and from what you've seen and experienced, to what extent might this risk be satisfied by a living relationship/marriage contract along with active project/tracking documents that both partners maintain and follow/act by, i.e. maintain integrity between what is said, done, and actually works/sustainable while the promoting clear, effective communication and mutual problem solving (without which I find questionable whether any relationship can really develop or last over time)?
In other words, by laying out so cleanly what may be required for a functional and mutually rewarding relationship, does this not help avoid bad relationships, e.g. where one or both partners aren't prepaired or ready to deliver on what is required, while providing a pathway for each to hold and support each other to lean in and level up?
Obviously there is much more too a good relationship than just that, but couldn't this be a good and constructive start to build on the awareness foundation that you just demonstrated so well?
This was great, thanks for making it.
For further inquiry regarding how outlets like this are enabled, check out:
https://www.spreaker.com/episode/episode-1234-discussing-nato-s-cognitive-warfare-w-stormy-waters--66786922
Papers referenced in that podcast:
https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/big-data/articles/10.3389/fdata.2024.1452129/full
https://innovationhub-act.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/12/CW-article-Claverie-du-Cluzel-final_0.pdf
https://www.nato.int/docu/review/articles/2021/05/20/countering-cognitive-warfare-awareness-and-resilience/index.html
Thank you, Dave!
Oh come on! Nobody's "radicalizing wives against their husbands". Wives are talking about their realities. It's 2025 and women are still taking on the majority of the household chores, cooking, childcare, emotionanal labor and cognitive load. We all know this. And outdoor/indoor work is not equivalent. Garbage takes what - 4 minutes per week to do? Fixing bits and bobbles around the home? Also infrequent (and people usually call out for that). Lawn upkeep? Most Americans are not even home owners to have a lawn to worry about, but for those that do - it's not a daily thing.
There's this one youtuber who years after his divorce has made his whole youtube career and persona about the divorce. Keeps chewing over and over in his head the reasons for his divorce (of course he blames his wife) and just can't let it go. He just can't understand why his wife left him when (according to him) he worked so hard to give her a nice upper middle class life in the suburbs. He said she ruined the relationship by expecting him to be a "mind reader" and know what she wanted without telling him. The example he gives are the chores around the house and taking care of his own damn kids. He said "ok she told me but I needed constant reminding". He said, "I'm a man so of course I've got other things on my mind so I forget but if she would have reminded me regularly I would have done it." Um, what if SHE would have "forgotten" to do important chores and child care? What would happen then? Point is - he could forget because he knew SHE was there to take care of everything. If SHE were to forget however, she couldn't rely on him to get it done.
THIS IS THE COGNITIVE LOAD THAT WIVES ARE TALKING ABOUT
And this dude still wonders why his wife left him?!
That's what the married women are dealing with. For singles...
The dating pool for women is literally
- porn addicts
- "sensitive" guys you have to perform constant emotional labor for
- narcissistic (if not sociopathic) gym bros
- emotionally distant manipulators
- performative "woke" men who still treat women like shit
Until men are ready to face up to all of this expect to see the dating, marriage and birth rates go down, down, down, down, down and...... DOWN.
While I think you may be only be addressing some common, but lazily constructed arguments while dismissing the episode and the substance of their full argument too easily (i.e. I know you could probably make a much stronger argument), I very much appreciate this specific clarifification of what is likely included in many womens valid concerns. This is valuable and practical information (and a fine foundation for a more encompassing argument).
Furthermore, I think you've nailed a critical and necessary element that many, perhaps most relationships are missing these days. And while I think Malcolm and Simone have offered a solution for this, you may be laying out one of the core problems that deserves specific treatment in how to address.
In clarifying how to make this actionable, and from what you've seen and experienced, to what extent might this risk be satisfied by a living relationship/marriage contract along with active project/tracking documents that both partners maintain and follow/act by, i.e. maintain integrity between what is said, done, and actually works/sustainable while the promoting clear, effective communication and mutual problem solving (without which I find questionable whether any relationship can really develop or last over time)?
In other words, by laying out so cleanly what may be required for a functional and mutually rewarding relationship, does this not help avoid bad relationships, e.g. where one or both partners aren't prepaired or ready to deliver on what is required, while providing a pathway for each to hold and support each other to lean in and level up?
Obviously there is much more too a good relationship than just that, but couldn't this be a good and constructive start to build on the awareness foundation that you just demonstrated so well?
Tracking documents and the like may work.